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Poetry in E-Motions

Poetry in emotions can be discovered and an excavated gem. Just like music and new behavioral rituals.  There is an adage that says that “in all of us there is a bit of a poet, musician, and insanity.”  When we FEEL strongly we often seek expressions of the energy.  If we use this energy creatively we can even capture and immortalize a moment. Thus in all our feelings we can find a poem, lyrics to music or behavioral rituals that may look insane to some individuals (such as having a party by the tomb of the deceased) that not only help us emote creatively but keep us sane.  Sometimes “abnormal” in an abnormal situation is normal. Have you ever caught yourself in any of these expressions?

Moving the energy of feelings so that we do not get stuck in it is healthy and the goal of healing.

This is another exercise for creative expression of feelings, whether they be sad, happy or of any color of the rainbow.

Exercise: Think of things that remind you of something or someone that nudges your heart in a downward spin or if you prefer an upward spin of emotions such as loss, pain or joy. List the things.  Use the poem below of as an example of how these things can all be triggers for these feelings. Create one in a similar style with the things that are unique to what you jotted down.  In the end celebrate what you have created with the power of words and how you have captured and memorialized something or someone special to you.

 

     IT’S YOU I MISS 

It’s the phone call I’ll never get

And the number I’ll never dial

The fresh cut rose from your garden I will never smell

The chocolates we won’t taste and share

Nor the toasts we’d make over wine we’d sip

It’s the books we’d read and discuss at length

And the music we danced and sang to all night

The meals we’d prepare to dine without hurry

And the stars in the sky we’d count for hours

The strolls by the lake we would often make

And the country drives we’d often take

It’s the peaceful sunsets we’d contemplate

And the morning songbirds we’d awaken to

It’s your touch

Your taste

Your smell

Your gentleness

Your caress

Your kisses

Your embraces

Your voice

Your caring

Your presence

 

It’s you… I miss

 

This is a poem on page 24 from Candles in the Dark…poems to grieve, hope and love again.

Welcome Poetry in E-Motions and discover the unique poet in you and the gems of poetry that can be excavated in all e-motions.

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Maria Hilda Pinon, author of The Willows of Corona, a novel, and Candles in the Dark…poems to grieve, hope and love again.

With an understanding of the process and roadmap of grief…it is time to do some work to release the old lingering feelings of loss. This is an exercise to help us work through any of our losses.  It is a process not a onetime event and exercise so repeat as often as necessary. And by all means seek professional help if you or others deem necessary.

First take an inventory of all the unfinished loss you are carrying around. Go as far back as you would like and is necessary. The size of the loss is not what matters; it is how you feel about it. It can be loss about innocence, youth, ideas, jobs, relationships, dreams, pets…anything you have given meaning to. Make the list as long as is necessary to dig up all the toxic pile.  Jot each one down in one word or statement.  

Take a deep breath as you think about each. Write one salient feeling associated with each one. On a scale of 0-10 (10 being the strongest possible feeling) rate each one. Work with the strongest ones first or weakest ones if you prefer. You goal as you experience each one is to slowly see a drop in your rating scale of each so that a 9 becomes an 8 and so on, until it is at a 0 when possible.  (There are some losses that will always leave a residual sting and perhaps a zero is not the desired goal such as when a parent loses a child. Yet it is possible for many to get to zero.) Remember lowering the rating scale is about the intensity of the feeling, not about your level of care for the loss.  You will always care about it but it will be a source of joy and strength in the future when your grief work is over.  

How do you know which losses are still lingering?  How do you know when your grief over a loss is over?  How you feel about it when you recall it will tell it all.

Whenever you think about or see anything that reminds you of your loss, you will feel a shift in your emotional state.  If you are not finished with your grief work, the shift is downward, diminishing, and restrictive, you may not want to go there as you “will feel bad all over again”. The emotional strings get pulled and you have a reaction to stop the feeling, escape, make it go away, make it go under a façade again.  Usually they are feelings of anger, sadness, guilt, fear or shame.

Welcome this visit from your feelings instead.  This is the opportunity for coming face to face with these feelings that pull us down and are tying up our energy in the wrong direction. Sit with your feelings and letting them just be and experience their aliveness in our being until they dissipate. Resist holding onto them or pushing them away. Just letting them be gives a sense of relief, just like when you go empty your bladder. You will feel better and lighter.  The feelings may surface again at a later time, but let them be. Name them and let them visit and let them pass through you. Repeat as often as they visit. 

Eventually you do run dry and then when empty you can be filled with more light and loving energy that is always there waiting to drop in on us. Remember when the feelings are reduced you will be able to hear the thoughts related to those feelings and can explore and challenge any self-defeating or limiting ones.

If when you think about it, you feel truly peaceful and can find strength in the experience of the past and have drawn insights or just feel complete with the ending, then your grief over that issue is over.  You will have no adverse feelings, only peace and perhaps joy as it was a great learning opportunity for you and now a part of your life history you can stand on with calm and acceptance.

Do this exercise as often as you need to and work on as many issues as are necessary. The reward is more energy for being more of the best you.  The healed and transformed you. Remember you are the author of your life.

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Maria Hilda Pinon, author of The Willows of Corona, a novel, and Candles in the Dark…poems to grieve, hope and love again.

Where are you now? Where is the place you call home? Where are you planted? Are you blooming?
In an age when we engage in all social media to build platforms as springboards for marketing ourselves, our wares, our gifts, our products, our anything….are we waiting to be discovered? Are we waiting for a “gatekeeper” to open the door and let us into the next level of stepping out into this global world environment where we want to be heard, recognized, acclaimed, noted not just by one, but by millions? Is this not the age when what we have to sell is not as important as who there is to sell it to? Who will give the gatekeeper the next opportunity to make millions off your gifts and talents? Platforms (followers) are the industry standard these days. For without any clout, we start at the bottom and may never get past a few rungs up the ladder of success (defined by how many millions are made or how many followers are ready to spend on what you have to offer, say or give to them).
And it is not just one ware, product or gift or anything we have to give that has value, but we also have to “up sell” give more “added value”, and create “urgency”, buy now before it is too late, or you get left behind, to compete in this global world. It feels like a race to outdo, outsmart, out strategize just to maybe step out and up! Whew! The goal keeps outdistancing itself, for when you reach one, the rules change, the methods or processes change, technology changes, the gatekeepers have changed….are we there yet?
Before we connected with technology, our only way was to connect personally. It may still be a most effective and valid way. We spend so much time with machines…adding to the value of a mechanized world, rather than the value of a human world. Our technology speaks to our current direction…more impersonal, scripted, mechanical, instant, and irreverent, anything goes.
Alas! Whereas we strive to stay connected and technology has opened the world to us and through this medium, for instance, New Zealand, Hong Kong, Turkey, and Great Britain have this blog in common and we connect through the technology web, it is still a machine in front of us and between us.
We fail to thrive without human contact or touch. We need each other, to look into someone’s eye’s and see that window to their spirit, to touch and transmit our healing and loving energy, to hear and allow the voice to vibrate and resonate in the chambers of our inner worlds.
Wherever you are give your gifts to those around you to those who will receive them and continue to bloom and grow where you are planted, while we wait for the seeds cast out in this web of technology, to fall on a fertile mind, heart, or spirit and your creative life force spreads globally, perhaps because of a gatekeeper or your platform size, but hopefully because your gift is the most valuable thing we offer to anyone. One on one, eye to eye, face to face, hand to hand, you are valuable where you are now.

“Bloom where you are planted.” Jeremiah 29 (1-7)

Maria Hilda Pinon, author of “The Willows of Corona”, a novel, and “Candles in the Dark…poems to grieve, hope and love again.”

www.mariahildapinon.com